Its the Tuesday Rant ! - Discipline
I thought I might just have a rant today. I really couldn’t decide on a proper topic for this article so I’m going to wing it.
Dr Phil has always said, in personal relationships, people do what works. If it works for you to bully your kids, because they never say anything back, or wouldn’t dare, you continue, because that works for you.
If your Dad can’t understand why something he’s done has upset you, and you just let it slide, but are still livid about it, it has worked for him.
If your child says a word which you feel is inappropriate, and you give them some consequences for the next time, and they still do it, and you don’t carry out their punishment, it works for them.
The main points to make sure this doesn’t happen are:
1. If you say that a certain course of action will have consequences you must follow through. Don’t give out punishments if you can’t stick to them. Make it something they’ll miss, like a favorite toy, but not need, like dinner.
2. They should only get the forfeit back when they have earned it. Stop their allowance and assign values to the items you’ve confiscated. That way they’ll only start to get a reward, their allowance, when they show consistent good behavior.
3 Make sure you make these kinds of decisions with the child’s other care-givers. That way you can all be consistent.
Good Luck !
dr phil, fatherhood, discipline, naughty, punishment
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