The Senseless Need For Control
As stated on my other blog, I was reading about the beating of a small boy who wet his bed. I do not understand that. The child may be a deep sleeper and not have woken up by the urge to go. How can the parent’s do something like that?
How about if the situation was reversed? Would the parent like to suffer like the child? How dare the parents abuse that child! That extends far beyond the need to exert control and establish discipline.
What has happened to compassion within the framework of the family unit? If you know the child wets his or her bed there are a couple of options.
One is to wake up really early, say about three in the morning and rouse the child up and put him or her on the potty. Or if you choose to ignore that, then place a large garbage bad, fully extended and place it under the sheets. That way the mattress does not get wet. You do not beat the child!
I am still in a state of confusion on how some people become parents. While I do not believe in a “test” to ascertain whether or not you would make a good parent, something needs to be done. I do not have a reasonable suggestion, as I do not want the government or the state to intervene. That do that enough already. There has to be a balance when it comes to disciplining your child. Too much and it is considered abuse, too little and you spoil the child. Where is the happy medium?
Does anyone have an answer to that?
November 29th, 2007 at 11:57 am
Something about children losing control of bodily functions sends adults over the edge. I’ve heard countless stories throughout the years of children who were severely beaten or killed as a result of soiling themselves. Obviously the adults who inflict this kind of punishment lack self-control themselves and view the child’s loss of control as somehow related to their own issues. Really unfortunate.
I was raised in an abusive home and as a parent have rarely used any form of corporal punishment with my kids. Time-outs, loss of privileges, or even a stern look have been very effective in maintaining discipline. Of course my entire parenting philosophy is rather left-of-center, but that’s a comment for another topic….
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November 29th, 2007 at 9:19 pm
The majority of the time, bed wetting is not done on purpose so does not require “discipline” at all in my opinion. Beating a kid because of it would make their nerves worse and probably wet more.
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